When Is The Right Time To Fall in Love

 

The question is, is there really a right time? May tamang panahon nga ba sa pag ibig?
There’s this one post na nakita ko sa social media and it goes like this:
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I came to think of it. Oo nga no, may tamang panahon nga ba talaga akong hinihintay na “if it’s meant to be, it will be or life is really too short that if I want it I should get it.” Ang lalim ng tanong sa isip ko because I have been waiting for the tamang panahon all my life.
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When I was 16, someone asked if he can court me and as far as I remember ang sagot ko lang, “pag nag 18 na ako dun pa lang pwede”, and it became my usual answer. Tumatak sa isip ko that the tamang panahon comes with age, na edad ang basehan.
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As I turned 18 ang mentality ko na ay pag nawala na ako sa pagiging teen pwede na at pag naka graduate na ‘ko. I was 19 when I got my college diploma and until then alam ko that I am still not prepared to enter into a serious relationship. Lagi kong nagagamit yung gasgas na gasgas na linyang “It’s not you, It’s me” to all those who dared.
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The moment I turned 21, I was advised by my friends na pwede na daw because I am working already and I am not getting any younger (wow, para namang ang tanda tanda ko na) on their mind ang tamang panahon naka-base sa social stability mo, yung pag may pang date ka na at hindi mo na hinihingi sa magulang mo ang pambili mo ng anniversary gift pwede ka na.
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But now that I am turning 23, (I know I’m not too old pa naman), kapag natatanong ako kung hindi ba ako pressured kase at my age dapat may boyfriend na ‘ko, dapat ini-establish na lang namin yung relationship, na dapat by this time hindi na bago sa akin lahat when it comes to being into a serious relationship and the list of “dapat” goes on.
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Madami na ang nakapag tanong sa akin kung hindi daw ba ako nalulungkot kase wala akong boyfriend, I won’t sugarcoat my answer by telling you that every day is indeed a happy day, kase may mga araw na I also want to feel loved. Please don’t get me wrong, kung sa pagmamahal lang ng pamilya at kaibigan, ay sagana naman ako diyan. Isama mo pa ang love ni Lord.
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What I’m trying to say is yung sinasabi nilang other half, yung mga late night text, yung pagkatapos ng isang nakakapanlata sa pagod na araw, you know you have someone to lean on, yung taong alam mong lagi kang kasama sa listahan ng panalangin niya, that one person na kasama mong mangangarap, that one person who will make you feel secured, that one person whom you will always take into consideration sa lahat ng bagay sa buhay mo. Gets niyo naman diba kung anong ibig kong sabihin. So what I’m trying to say ay OO, MINSAN MALUNGKOT ANG WALANG BOYFRIEND.
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But are those reasons enough for me to engage myself sa isang relasyon na hindi naman pala talaga ako handa? sa isang relasyon na minadali ko just because I felt so lonely? kapag ginawa ko yun, I’m not just being unfair to myself, I’m also being unfair to the other person dahil inilalayo ko siya dun sa taong para sakanya.
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As cliche as it may sound, “Love when you’re ready and not when you’re lonely.”
Mahalin mo muna yung sarili, learn to live alone, learn to love everything about you because as they always say, you cannot give what you do not have. Paano ka makakapag bigay ng pagmamahal sa iba kung ang mismong sarili mo hindi mo nakayang pagbuhusan ng pagmamahal.
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I remember one Sunday morning, the preacher gave us a very meaningful preaching and what strikes me the most is when he said na “if you are not happy being single then you will never be happy married”. When you learned to love yourself more, mas matututunan mong mahalin ang magiging partner mo, hindi mo hahayaan na umikot sakanya ang mundo mo.
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So for me, ang tamang panahon nasa kanya kanyang time table natin, it doesn’t mean you are waiting for the tamang panahon ay kailangan mong umabot ka sa edad na trenta bago mo siya makita or just because you are already 38 ay wala ka ng hinihintay dahil nakalampas na siya.
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It doesn’t mean Toni Gonzaga had a boyfriend at 23 and got married at 31 ay ganun na din ang kapalaran mo, or maybe your bestfriend had a boyfriend at 17 and got married at 18 ay dapat ganun ka din. Wag mong ibase sa karanasan ng ibang tao ang kahihinatnan ng buhay mo. Ang time table mo ay iba sa kanila.
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Kung pinaghihintay ka ni Lord ngayon, aba ma-excite ka. Because he is producing something wonderful and marvelous in you. He is not an unjust God. He saw your patience and He still does and He is pleased, don’t you forget that.
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May kanya kanya tayong oras at panahon. There are poeple like me who are still waiting, may mga tao din na at my age nahanap na, meron namang maaga “daw” nilang nakita pero hindi pa pala siya and they are starting to fix themselves now.
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But whatever your situation is, wag mo lang susukuan.
Please, don’t give up on love.
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Just believe that one ordinary day, the extra ordinary kind of love that you’ve been waiting will arrive just right on time.
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There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.
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To The Person I Thought Would Not Leave

 

You made me believe that there is something magical that lasts forever
You made me believe that something could be as beautiful as the stars

You made me believe that love can be so strong that it makes life worth living

You made me believe that in love, giving up is never an option

You made me believe that forever does exist

You made me believe that what we have is something real

Something you’re willing to fight for

something that gives meaning to your mere existence

Something that calms your heart

Something that we can be proud of

You made me believe in “us”. 

But…

What happened? 

Girl, Know Your Worth!

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A pair of used but good shoe was sold at $100,000.00 because it happened to be owned by someone named Michael Jordan.

The worth of something is based on who owned it in the past, those pair of shoe wouldn’t be sold for a very high price if it wasn’t owned by Michael Jordan.
Now ask yourself, who owns you?
I remember why I had this high standard in love, I was in high school when I heard someone say “ay ang choosy, akala mo kung sinong kagandahan” to someone he doesn’t even truly know,  it really  marked in my mind that guys see it that way so I promised myself na “hindi magiging ganda ang batayan ng pagpili” that I had to prove them wrong.
But don’t get me wrong, hindi ako magmamaganda just to prove a point, I have to set my own standards in love also because at the end of the day pipiliin ko yung taong kanino ako magsu-submit. I just realized, isn’t it ironic that girls have all the right in the world to chose whom they are going to submit (Ephesians 5:22).
Pipili ka. Oo girl, ikaw ang pipili.
With the kind of society that we have, madalang na lang daw ang mga Maria Clara, para sa akin naman, every woman have their own maria Clara inside of them, she just need to be awaken.
Then, what do we mean by Maria Clara?
Is it okay na magmura? na maging comfortable sa green jokes?
Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial (1 Corinthians 10:23).
Hindi ka masamang tao just because you cracked green jokes and say bad words, but the question is does it benefit you? May naitutulong ba? Does it make you a better person? if yes then I think  you are on the track. But I bet your answer is no, hindi naman talaga nakakatulong, baka kasi nakasanayan mo na lang and maybe that is what the society calls “IN”.
Girls, if this is your basis of happiness, self satisfaction and if you think this is how the world would accept you then I think you are barking at the wrong tree. You should always decide for yourself on what is right and wrong, you should never let other people nor this society dictates your happiness.
I repeat, hindi ka masamang tao and you have all the chance in the world to make it right. God is not just a God of second chances, but He is a God of many chances. You woke up today with your heart still beating because you are given another chance, make it count.
I understand that when you reach the age of 25 and up there is this pressure of not having a lifetime partner, “may mali ba sa akin?” ” Pangit ba ako?” “Mahirap ba akong mahalin?”.
Have you asked yourself that maybe wala naman talagang mali sayo, hindi ka naman pangit at hindi ka naman mahirap mahalin, sadyang madali ka lang makuha that’s why no guy took you seriously.
Girls, remember that guys pursue if they are challenged, if there’s a wall that they need to break and a heart that they need to melt because their masculinity is being tested.
Pahirapan mo naman girl, you are a gem and don’t you forget that. Hindi ka simpleng bato na kahit saan makukuha niya. Isa kang diamante na kailangan niyang paghirapan, because anything that is worth having is definitely worth the effort. Kapag alam niya na pinaghirapan ka niyang makuha hindi ka niya agad agad maitatapon.
Uso na daw kasi yung babae ang nanliligaw at yung nagbibigay ng motibo, girl “hindi lahat ng uso wasto”. Isipin mo na lang na kung ikaw ang nanligaw dapat ikaw ang magdadala ng bag niya, you have to pay for your meal and you have to get his “yes”. Hindi ka ganun kababaw girl. Ikaw dapat ang pinagbubuhat ng bag, ikaw dapat ang inililibre sa date at sine (hindi naman sa lahat ng oras ha, learn to give also, hindi ka pa niya responsibilidad at hindi pa siya ang bumubuhay sayo) at ikaw dapat ang magsasambit ng mga katagang “OO SINASAGOT NA KITA” and not the other way around.
Now, how can you determine your value?
Personally, I saw my worth not in the eyes of other people but in the eyes of my loving father in heaven, He loves me and that’s enough reason for me to know “I am worth it”

Goodbye’s Are Meant To Be Good ♡

Some good things must really come to an end. People have or had to say goodbye because at that moment it is the right thing to do. We don’t just leave for no apparent reason.

  • Regret

There will always be regrets. Whether you leave happy or sad you will always bring with you the thought of “what if”. In the long run you will realize what you lost and what you gained. It is up to you what will matter the most.

Your biggest regret could turn out to be your greatest lesson. Chances are you will find happiness the moment you realize that regret will remain a regret until you finally forgive yourself for not fighting a little longer or for holding on into something that is slowly killing the person inside of you.

  • Leaving things behind

For some reasons you have to close a chapter that means to you the most and that includes leaving people. You have to endure the pain of moving one step forward even if it means leaving something behind and once you got attached into it, it would be very hard to let go thinking that one Monday morning you will no longer do the things that you used to do, be with the people you used to be with. But you have to do it. It’s now or never.

  • Step higher

As the door closes, another door awaits to open widely for you.

If you stay on the same position your entire life, how would you know if taking a step higher is far greater than what you thought is the best for you right now.

Be the best person you can be. Do something today that your future self will thank you for. Even if it means crying all night, sweating off your feet until dawn and breaking your heart all over again, because in the end you will find yourself stronger and braver.

  • Go on

You may think of quitting all over again, take a deep breath and go on. Start thinking of why you even started. Think of the very reason why you would like to give it a try one last time. But if your heart and your soul tells you that you can no longer do it. Quit!

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An Open Letter To All Young Ladies Who Want To Serve God

I started attending church when I was 12. I had no idea at that time what it means to serve the Lord. I go to church only because of my family and I want to meet new friends, that’s it. We attended a service which includes young people and I bet we are the youngest at that time. I really did not have an idea that serving God would become a necessity to me. At first I was persecuted for sharing Jesus. I was once told that I was too young to know what love is. I was too young to share Jesus, but let me tell you that age is not a requirement for you to serve God. He is only requiring you to be willing and just believe what God can do in your life.

Along the way there are people who inspired me to become who I am right now. Surround yourself with people who always bring out the best in you. Surround yourself with people who will inspire you to serve God more. Surround yourself with people who share the same belief as you are. Along the journey you will find distractions but do not lose hope because the Lord is with you. Here are some of the things that may hinder you from growing in your faith.
  • STUDIES
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that you should quit school for you to be able to serve God, what I’m saying is that you can be a lot better and you can do more if you put God in the center. I met a lot of Christians who surrendered their lives to Jesus but still made Him their least priority. They make their studies as an excuse not to serve God. I also became a victim of being pressured at school, I sacrificed Sundays to finish deadlines, I sacrificed prayer for sleep, I sacrificed reading the bible to review for exams and I even sacrificed my relationship with the Lord to accomplish what I thought is necessary at that time.  I told myself that the Lord would understand because He wanted me to finish school, but I was wrong. He wanted me to finish school but He wanted to be a part of it. He wanted to be part of my journey, with every failure, mistake, heartache, my rewarding moments and every success that I’ll have. I was reminded that my first priority was God, that He is not just more than capable but He is willing to make all things possible for me. What I learned is that nothing in this world should separate you from God, always remember your purpose, always bring with you your highest calling and it is to serve and glorify your Father in heaven.
  • WORK
I was only 18 when I had my first job. I took my degree for 3 years so I had to go to school every summer just to finish it early. The moment I received my degree I was in a hurry to find work, have my own money and of course help my parents. The beginning was hard but I enjoyed it because everything was new and the thought of “me paying my own bills” is exciting, but the scenario changed as time passed by, it did not became as exciting as I had expected it. In the long run I got tired, my life revolved in my work. I got drained and I realized that I was not happy anymore. I thought that if you already have everything you need and a job that will give you the respect the you wanted to have you’ll be happy, but I was wrong. I was like a lost sheep with no direction, I kept running but I had no one to confide with, I knew at that time that I already lost my relationship with God, but He reminded me that He never stopped loving me and that maybe it is just I who stopped receiving. When you think that you are already at your lowest, get on your knees because the distance between your problem and the solutions is the distance between your knees and the ground. Cry, and tell God everything.  True happiness comes only from the Lord. What profits a man if He gains the whole world but loses his soul.
  • UNGODLY RELATIONSHIP
I never had a boyfriend. But being surrounded with couples gave me a lot to consider.
I saw how a person can be so dedicated in serving God, I saw how a person can do anything for God. How young ladies like you and me can truly surrender and obey God.
Am I saying that having a boyfriend while you serve God is a bad thing? Definitely No! What I am saying is that it can be a big distraction, for now. A relationship that will hinder you from serving God is not worth your time, your attention and love. A relationship that will lead you to sin is not from God.
As a woman of God we ought to glorify and magnify Him in our lives.
I saw how young ladies set aside their ministries and their relationship with the Lord for the sake of pleasing their boyfriends. Thinking he might leave you if you give more time in serving. I saw how this love slowly snatch them from God. I know it is not your intention to make God your least priority but it happened, without you knowing it you are very far away from your purpose.
Many of you might think that you can balance it, that you can serve God while you’re engaged in an ungodly relationship. I hope and I pray that you can really do it because with what I witnessed it is far from reality. You cannot go to one direction together if you’re believing in two different things. I hope one fine  day you’ll find the courage to weigh which matters to you the most.
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A God-Centered relationship is definitely worth the wait.
We have different stories, some of us had already found it and some are still waiting and praying for it. You may be waiting now for a very long time but have faith that in God’s perfect time He will grant you the desires of your heart.
I pray that one day you find that one person who share the same faith as you are. That person who will pray for you and will encourage you to serve God more. That person who will not let you choose between God and him. That person who will lead you closer to Jesus. Remember that with God on your side, you can never go wrong.
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Ladies, let us make this life count. I am praying for you.

Happydheyyy is ready to take off! 💋

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2015 may be the hardest year for me, I gain and I lost. But what matters is, in everything that happened – I learned.
I was rejected for not just once but many times and I almost got to the point where I questioned my worth and my existence. I almost quit the fight. But thank God I did not lose heart. He reminded me that this is not my battle; this life doesn’t even belong to me so why would I even bother worrying when there is someone up there who is capable and very much willing to make things possible for me.
Good things happen to those who “patiently” wait. If you failed then try again and wait for the perfect time when the crown comes and it will finally belong to you.
Now, I am going to start the year right. I will focus on the things that I know gives growth and on the positive side of life.
I will fulfill the things I promised myself for the past years, but if I can’t, I know I still have 2017, 2018, 2019 and so on and so fort. As they always say, Life doesn’t end when you fail. This is our “First Attempt In Learning” and when people say no to us put in mind that a NO means “Next Opportunity”.
In this life many people will say no to you but there will be that one person whose going to say yes to you and it will change your life forever. 

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To my dearest savior

To my dearest savior,

Lord, I come to you now not to ask anything from you but to simply thank you for everything. My mere existence is nothing without you.

For loving me unconditionally, for not giving up on me and for always believing in what I can do, THANK YOU.

There may be tough times in my life Lord, there may be times that I doubt and almost give up, thank you for reminding me that your love is always enough. That you are always enough.

For the times that I questioned your plans, thank you for showing me how to trust you. for the times that I lost myself, thank you for showing me the way back to you and for the times that I hurt you, thank you because you never got angry and you completely understood what I am going through.

For your love, mercy, compassion and

for the cross, Thank you.

 

Sometimes Losing Is Gaining

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If receiving NO would be our basis why we move forward then none of could ever reach the finish line.
For some people you will never be enough, for some job opportunities and promotions there will always be people better than you, for friends some would have to leave,
“and for yourself you have keep going”.
There will come a time where you will find confusion in choosing whether to give up or try harder, whether to run away or hold tighter, because sometimes tests are given to see how much you can give or it is given to show you it’s time to raise your flag down.
At the end of a chapter you will see who bid goodbye and who eventually stayed. People do come and go and you just gotta accept that.
Sometimes terrible things happen in our lives where we even questioned the existence of goodness, hope and love. It seems to lead us at the end of the road but don’t lose heart because when a chapter closes another one begins.
Losing isn’t just painful and heartbreaking, it is life changing. Losing what you love will never make you the same again.
“But you have to keep moving”.

CHRISTMAS WISHLIST

From the joyful songs to the trees with gifts underneath and lights that shine brightly. I can really sense the spirit of one of my favorite holiday of the year (I believe it is not just me).

So to those who are planning to give happydheyyy a gift, she won’t make it so hard for you because here’s a quick list of the things she wants to receive this coming season.

 

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Starbucks Tumbler

 

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Vinsic Power Bank

 

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Charriol bracelet

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Sided Cross necklace
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Dolce and Gabbana Light blue
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Mac Riri Woo Lipstick
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Air Max 87 Woman Black Red Pink

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But above all else, this is what I want this Christmas.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!